Shut off Replay

Good morning my beloved friends,

How are you this glorious morning pregnant with possibilities of the day. I wonder how this day will play out. Can't wait.
Have you ever had someone poke you until you blow off steam and let them have it real good?  Well I am trying to be better than be old self but every now and then that old shell of my self pokes out its head to let me know it is not dead, just lying dormant.
Anyway, I have a friend whose language is framed in conclusions and judgments. I have listened to her trying to put her stuff on me and brushed it off for the past two months.  I do not acknowledge her judgements but  watch it and move over to something more in keeping with my new and improved self. Yesterday she honed in again making the same judgements not once but two or three times and I stopped her in her track and told her what she was saying is not about me, it's all her.  I was little tougher than I had anticipated but might have hurt her feelings. All night and even this morning I am replaying this scenario in my head and trying to justify my behaviour all the while trying to get this thought from out of my head. Then I opened an email and found this.......
If you ever find yourself challenged or stressed by
something in your life, you may notice the mind often
steps in and tries to "fix" the issue.  But for most people
that's where the problem really begins.

Instead of stepping back and just observing the issue,
the mind (based on habitual patterns) wants to take
charge and often causes more problems (and stress)
than originally existed.  Then, the vicious cycle begins

How To Become The Observer

Here’s the simple formula to become the observer and step back from virtually
any problem or challenge you ever face (no matter how intense) and still feel
peace and inner calm.
If you ever encounter a problem or anything that begins to cause stress in
your life simply:
1. Notice how you feel -  and breathe in slowly and deeply
2. Get a sense of the feeling (where it’s located in your body)
3. Breathe into the feeling and let go
4. Just notice the feeling – with no judgment
5. Continue breathing into the feeling until you feel a shift
- when the observer within you awakens and you sense a difference.
It might be the feeling lightens up, or that you get a sense of clarity or inner peace.
The real key is to become “the one who notices” and step out of the
“problem mindset”.
This single shift of awareness is enough to feel connected, whole and at peace.

This works people.
Check out his website for some great articles and tips on living a fuller more congruent life.
http://www.dreamsalive.com/blog/?p=744

You are deeply and divinely loved