I came across this item and feel we all could use some of the info.

Whom among us do not like to blame others for our problems. It is fun to blame others because we get too be the good guys right?
You are divinely loved.

Do you know somebody who suffers from excessive blaming of others? Of course you do. The person gets a list of resentments about things that were done to them… and then that list tends to grow out of control.

Here's the thing. When you blame and resent people for the past, you're giving them responsibility over important parts of your life. Now they're responsible, not you. You give them that responsibility, even though they may have screwed up! Doesn't make sense, right?

On the other hand, some people in our lives - colleagues, friends, parents, family members - DID play an important part in our life story, right? They did have an effect on us, and in some cases they did hurt us.

So how do you deal with that disparity? In this video, Tony will show you a strategy called "Conscious Blaming." This strategy gives you a win-win: you get to blame others for things that happened to you BUT in a way that won't hurt you. Mieke was able to unlock and release a whole set of resentments and self-limitations, and live an expanded life.

Here's the video. Feel free to share it with a friend!

Something to think about and hope it brightens your day with hope

“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.”
― Bob Marley

Quotable Quote

"You were born with potential. You were born with goodness and trust. You were born with ideals and dreams. You were born with greatness. You were born with wings. You are not meant for crawling, so don't. You have wings. Learn to use them and fly!" Rumi

You are divinely loved my friends - fly

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BD9cFU5HuX8&feature=player_embedded#!

You are divinely loved

“If one advances confidently in the direction of one's dreams, and endeavors to live the life which one has imagined, one will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.” ~ Henry David Thoreau 

Quotable Quote

There is a magnet in your heart that will attract true friends. That magnet is unselfishness, thinking of others first; when you learn to live for others, they will live for you.
Paramahansa Yogananda

You are divinely loved and appreciated.

Something interesting that I came across that could be helpful

http://www.oprah.com/spirit/How-to-Listen-to-Your-Life-Mark-Nepo_1

Fee free to start a discussion on any of these topics. I would love to here from you.
You are divinely loved and appreciate.

Something of a meditation for you today

How are you doing? Just wanted to let you know you are deeply loved and appreciated. Have a blissful day. I just walked to work. It was about 45 minutes walk. I feel great. I am happy.

Walk quickly today, not because you are in a hurry, but because you value the exercise for legs and heart. As you walk, allow your thoughts to visit you, but not stay. Let them come to pass, and you will be surprised how quickly they become positive, and filled with creative ideas. And paradoxically, if you stay internally aware, you may notice that the quicker you walk, the more your thinking slows down and deepens. Walking briskly and positive thinking - that's the simplest way to take care of body and mind. And life was meant to be simple...wasn't it?
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Follow your bliss

"Only do and act on only that which makes you more joyous, fulfills you, gives you contentment, makes your life a work of art, a beauty. But this is possible only if the master in you is awake. Right now the master is fast asleep. And the mind, the servant, is playing the role of master. And the servant is created by the outside world, it follows the outside world and its laws. Once your awareness becomes a flame, it burns up the whole slavery that the mind has created. There is no blissfulness more precious than freedom, than being a master of your own destiny." ~Osho

Let the message on this clip be your inspiration for the day

The importance of gratitude.

Do You Dress Rehearse Tragedy? Why Joy Can Be the Most Terrifying Emotion

19 May 2013

FinerMinds Team

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“When we lose our tolerance for vulnerability joy becomes foreboding.” – Dr. Brene Brown

I met a very good friend yesterday and it was so nice to see her. She announced she was leaving the city because it was not a good place to raise her Aboriginal children. She wants them to be raised in a city where there are a variety of people who troll the streets begging or behaving in a manner that is frowned upon by society.  She said it was difficult to raise her Aboriginal children here.

It is true that Aboriginal people are over-represented in this city because there is a large percentage of Aboriginal people living here, in fact, in all of Canada, this city has the highest per capita population of Aboriginal people. On top of that Aboriginal people are over-represented among the poor.

We would often hear about the Residential School System ,colonialism and capitalism that are at the root of Aboriginal people's negative situation and I do not disagree with that.  However most Aboriginal people have made progress in their lives in spite of the historical difficulties. So, when we are confronted with our circumstances, I believe that instead of blaming anything outside of ourselves, we must take responsibility for what happens to us.  This is the teaching of Dr. Wayne Dyer whom I listen to quite often. If we continue to blame anyone else, we will be waiting on those people to make amends before we can move on with our lives but if we take full responsibility for whatever happens to us then the power is in our own hands to step out of it in spite of.

He said even if you are have suffered the trauma of sexual or physical abuse you have to take responsibility for it. You have to own it all. You have to tell yourself that you did not know better and you did what you did - you remained quiet, you allowed people to abuse you or feed you unhealthy foods to made you fat - you have to own it all. Because there are people and children faced with the same situation who responded differently. You have to then forgive yourself and promise now that you know better you are going to do better.  If you don't you will be colluding in the ongoing victimization of you by other people and circumstances.

   Most Aboriginal people, most people who were abused as children have chosen to respond to such trauma differently, some have chosen to fight back and others just did not know what to do and stuck with it.  This does not make you a bad person just a person who did not know better.  It does not absolve those who committed crimes against you but you have taken leave of it to live your best life in spite of what happened in the past.  The present, now, is all we really have. The past is history and if we life there, we are missing out on active living wasting energy on what cannot be changed instead of changing what we can.

What I am saying does not mean you have to forget what happened but you do not have to continue living there.  Its like slavery. What happened was atrocious but if all Black people walked around with a chip of their shoulder there would be no President Obama. We have to stare down demons of the past, put them to bed and engage in life. Take our birthright which is living a happy successful life and it starts in the mind.

Quotable Quote
Character - the willingness to accept responsibility for one's own life is the source from which self-respect springs - Joan Didion

This is powerful teaching by Eckhart Tolle

Listen to this and then let's discuss. I would love to hear from you

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YFPgTUpcZcY&feature=endscreen&NR=1

Persistence pays off

How many of us give up the first time our plans did not pan out especially if we lose a few dollars. If you want to be successful you have to develop the mindset of successful people. Successful people do not give up and do not see failure as a bad thing but as an opportunity to learn and try something different.  Successful people would speak in terms  like "I encountered a little bump on the road - nothing that can't be fixed" instead of saying "just my luck" "total failure" "I guess that was not meant to be" - this is how people who do not live up to their potential frame things. Every failure is an opportunity to learn. When you awfulize a situation more awful things are likely to occur.
Develop a success mindset and see a rainbow behind every cloud.

If the first plan which you adopt does not work successfully, replace it with a new plan; if this new plan fails to work, replace it in turn with still another, and so on, until you find a plan which does work. Right here is the point at which the majority of men meet with failure, because of their lack of persistence in creating new plans to take the place of those which fail.” ~ Napoleon Hill from Think and Grow Rich

I highly recommend you get a copy of this book and read it if you want to want to get tips on how to succeed in life.  Napoleon Hill is one of the fathers of human potential movement.

 

Today is going to an exciting day

Do you know you create what shows up in your day. Most of the time what shows up is our interpretation or judgment of events. We like to judge things good or bad, right or wrong and so on and then we let our emotions align with our judgement.
What if you see the good in everything for today?  See everyone as a special teacher who appear in your life to teach you something that you need to move forward. Sometimes people appear and they push our buttons and then you have to ask yourself, why is my button being pushed, what is it saying about me. You generally know the answer. The heart knows everything. The heart is the seat of knowledge past, future and the present. Remember the first thing that announced your beginning in this physical world was your heart beat when there was nothing else there. No ears, no hands, no head, no nothing, just your beautiful beating heart, beating a song for you. Just for you. The heart knows. Check in often with your heart, speak to it softly, gently, ask it questions and wait for the answer, it always comes.  You are so loved and when you embrace that loving, generous person you are that is what you will be broadcasting in the world, when people see you they will see your beautiful light shining and you will affect them positively as you pass by. Be a light my beautiful friends, shine your light into the world.
Love and light

I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
Maya Angelou

Law of Attraction

I was listening to a talk last weekend by Marilyn Jennette, a spiritual new agey kind of a person but she had some interesting things to say about the law of attraction.
I am sure you have heard about this law of attraction before. I heard about it a few years ago, when The Secret came out. A friend of mine was on her last throes of terminal cancer and we were into this book thinking it may save her. Unfortunately it did not.
Well, what Marilyn said made sense. The subconscious mind is our willing servant. It controls a lot of what goes on in us.  Whatever we put our mind on it tries to fulfill for us. So if you are trying to attract something to yourself, the subconscious mind interprets this as something that is missing and so it provides you with more of what is missing.

We are indeed our thoughts. 

The secret according to Jennette is if you want to attract wealth, health, friendship, love, you have to think in terms of already having it.  For example if you want more money to flow into your life, you have to focus on what is, you have to imagine yourself, living your dream. How would it feel if had a million dollars in your bank account, how would you feel if you had the perfect love, if you had the most exciting job, think of the emotions, feel it, bathe in it, dance in it, jump for joy in it, live in it.
In your energetic life it already is, it is only a matter of time for your subconscious mind to bring it in this reality.

This is the basic principle of the Law Of Attraction: What you consistently focus on...the Universe brings more of to you. DO NOT FOCUS ON WHAT YOU DO NOT HAVE, FOCUS ON WHAT YOU HAVE AND MORE OF WHAT YOU HAVE WILL COME TO YOU EASILY AND EFFORTLESSLY MY FRIENDS.

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.
Henry David Thoreau

Happy Mother's Day

Even though every day is mother's day, I hope that today you are made to feel especially special by your loved ones and even if they do not make you feel special I hope you know that you are a very special person because you are here.
Our children are our teachers. They teach us a lot of things and I am grateful that I have a few to help me back to myself and my heart.

May you feel the love vibration all around you. Today on facebook for example there is so much love being shared to women, dads who are doing the mom and dad thing and all women in general. Even if you did not birth a child you are still a mother if you ever opened your heart to a child.you are a mother is much more than 15 hours of labour.
Treat yourself to something special. You are a divine spark and you are truly loved. I want you to receive it and treat yourself to something special. You deserve it.

 

It's a beautiful day in the neighbourhood

How is it in your neighbourhood? Is it beautiful today? Do you feel the flow of abundance? Have you had breakfast? How did you sleep last evening? Did you have a bed to sleep on? Did a friend call you or call on you? What blessing was bestowed upon you.  Could you find something right now to be grateful for? Looking a life from a position of gratitude is magical.  You feel great, unstoppable and look for things in your life to be grateful for and the more you look, the more reasons you find to be grateful.  Remember, where attention goes energy flows.  Thin of a few things you can be grateful for and feel that gratitude swelling in your heart and expanding through your entire body and then outside of your body, feel it growing all over your house, your yard, your city, your country and to the world and beyond. Take a few deep breaths inhaling through your nose and letting it slowing out through a crack between your lips so quietly that a person sitting next to you cannot hear. Do that a few times and then return to the task at hand. Feel the shift in your energy and hold it there for as long as you can.

Have a day of gratitude
When you train yourself to see things from a place of gratitude, and this just takes a little regular daily practice, you will begin to notice all the things you already have in your life - big and small - that you can truly rejoice and celebrate! Philosopher.

Quote for the day

"The beauty of truth is authenticity. Become more authentic and you will have a flowering. The more authentic you become, by and by you will feel many things are falling away of their own accord and you never made any effort to do anything. Once you know the knack of being authentic, then you become more and more loose, more and more natural. True liberation is not very far away, it is just hidden behind you. Once you are authentic, the door is open!" ~Osho

Taming your monkey mind

Even the best of us sometimes are dogged by recurring thoughts that we cannot seem to shake. The more you try to shake off unwanted thoughts the more fiercely they cling to you.

Experts and gurus alike suggest that it is futile to try to stop thinking about something you don't want to think about. The best strategy is to replace that thought with another thought a good example is to find a mantra that you like and repeat it as often as it takes to get that unwanted thought out of your mind.
Here are a few:

"Ohmmm"

“I love and accept myself completely.” “I release all restrictions. I am free to be me.” Louise Hay

“I am totally independent of the good or bad opinion of others.” “I am beneath no one.” “I fearlessly handle any and all challenges in my life.”  Deepak Chopra

This is an inspiring video of Validation

Check out this video and be inspired.

http://youtu.be/Cbk980jV7Ao

How are you today?

Good morning world, and good morning my friends. I am feeling fabulous. The sun is shining out of a clear blue sky, I just had a soda biscuit with a cup of medium roast "fair trade" coffee that hit the spot. My coworkers are all great and wished me good morning with smiles and laughter. I feel like a million dollar right now. Life is good and I am ready to face the rest of the day expecting more abundance and joy along the way. Yes, I am expecting and so it will be.  My mind is clear and I have no fear - the rhyme was not intended but it sounds good.

Expect the best
See you soon.

Quote for today
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.
Leo Buscaglia

How are you doing today

I just returned from a wonderful brunch with about 30 women of all ages celebrating womanhood and mother hood. We heard from three speakers a young mother a middle aged mother and a grandmother. It was beautiful. The energy was great and I am still on a high.

I hope wherever you are reading this that you are okay too. I care about you because we're one. I'm over this illusion of difference. We are cells of one womb - mother earth and when one cell is not doing too well it affects the entire body.So be well.  Embrace life and remember that it is our interpretation of an event that creates feelings good or bad within us. There are not right or wrong, up or down, in and out - these are all our interpretations we have put on the changing nature of our world. The only constant is change and with this change sometimes we are on top of the mountain and other times we are in the valley but we are not going to stay in either place forever, because everything is movement, everything is energy and everything is good.

In my neck of the wood it is a fantastic day of blues skies, sunny day and people raking leaves in shorts and looking quite happy.
Here's a beautiful quote to brighten up your day. Yes you. I love you.

"There is a life-affirming spark within you which constantly nudges you towards saying yes to life. Create your YES list; a list of all the things you want to say YES to, and be prepared to be amazed. ~ Linda MacDonald

"Gather all courage and take the jump.
Even the dewdrop slipping from a lotus leaf trembles
for a moment, tries to hang on a little more,
because he can see the ocean below...
and once he has fallen from the lotus leaf he is gone.

Yes, in a way "you" will not be; just as a dewdrop
dissolves into the ocean, you will be gone.
But it is not a loss. You will be oceanic.
And all other oceans are limited.
Only the ocean of existence is unlimited." ~Osho

Here's what Eckhart says about finding peace

http://www.oprah.com/spirit/Why-Youre-Not-at-Peace-Yet-How-to-Find-Peace-Eckhart-Tolle

Good advice

* wherever you are is wherever you are meant to be,

* whatever you are doing is whatever you are meant to be doing and

* whatever everyone else is doing is what they are meant to be doing.”

To experience constant contentment, we need to become aware of all the things that make us dissatisfied and free ourselves from those things (ideas, opinions, objects, people). We don’t have to reject them or distance ourselves from them, but a detachment from them, a detachment at the level of the consciousness that will bring back our inner freedom. Detachment is then accompanied by the experience of a deep, inner awareness of satisfaction and stillness, because you stop being dependent on anything or anyone outside ourselves.

It is highly unlikely that we will arrive at this deep state of fulfillment very soon - though we may touch it and experience it temporarily. It is only by understanding and accepting completely that everything is the way it is meant to be at every moment, both outside our minds and inside our minds that we move closer to being content.

www.brahmakumaris.org

What if

What if everything that is happening to you is good for you. It is the universe trying to teach you a lesson to make you a better more successful person.  It's not what is happening to us is the problem, it is how we think about it, it is how we perceive and judge it and then react to that judgement.
What if we are grateful and thankful for everything that shows up in our lives? What if we welcome difficulties?  What if we just accept things the way they are without putting a lot of judgement on them, how will that affect our heart space. How would you feel if you could not think thoughts that upset you?
What if you really could not think such thoughts? How would you feel? What if you couldn't think the thoughts that keep you away, what if?
After you contemplate on these questions you would see that you are just a thought away from feeling great and perfect.  Find a reason to celebrate your experiences and sometimes to even laugh at them.



A conscious realization of our innate oneness with the Ineffable does not mean that we will never make a mistake again. Even enlightened beings burn their bagels once in a while. It’s important to maintain a sense of humor because this is how you will stop being afraid of making a mistake. You’ll make some, but so what? That’s why they’re called mis-takes. Humor relaxes the uptight ego. You get a new cue from your inner Self and simply say, “I missed my cue, so let’s do a second take.” Your willingness to take the risk of making a mistake is actually an expression of courage and a willingness to grow from them. Mistakes are about getting the blessing in the lesson and the lesson in the blessing.” ~ Michael Bernard Beckwith from Spiritual Liberation